Often there is so much we should do, we must do. Not because somebody else tells us to. No, because we tell ourselves we have to. I know I often do. But… what do you allow yourself? That is what this blog is about. About the power of allowing instead of should or must. About […]
This week during a coaching session a client asked me… what can I do to make sure that I don’t run myself ragged? How to stop in time? How can I make sure that I respect my boundaries? Of course, there are multiple things you can do. But I am going to only share one […]
Here in the Netherlands, summer holidays have started. The quieter summer period is always a good moment to take stock. To reflect back on the first part of the year and consciously set intentions for the remainder of the year. Reflection I think is especially important since we are in such extraordinary times. With the […]
We often think that what we need to be able to take that scary step is more confidence. If I would feel more confident than I would be able to succeed. Once we no longer feel fear or uncertainty then we can take this step. So we wait until we feel more confident, we wait […]
Do you have this voice in your head that says to you: “WHAT WILL PEOPLE THINK? “ This voice of worry and fear often shows up when we want to play bigger. When we want to try something new, when we want to take an important step or when we want to share our work […]
Leadership might look like taking a big stage. Leadership might look like being in a formal leadership position and having positional power. But leadership is not limited to big stages or to formal leadership positions. These are just two forms of leadership. Moreover, having a formal leadership position does not automatically make you a true […]
***Warning: this is a different blog than usual*** That is why I was hesitant whether or not to write this. This is a blog about my own searching. I share my own searching process more often in my inspiration mails. However, it is always followed by some concrete learnings or practical tips or actions. Since […]
Overwhelm Sometimes you can get overwhelmed by the vastness of change that is needed, the change you long for, the change you want. Sometimes you can get overwhelmed by how big the steps are (or seem to be) that you need to take. Whether you want to contribute to ending racism Whether you want to […]
Nowadays there is a lot of talk about finding your passion. Finding your passion is sold to us as the key to having a clear sense of direction. As the key to living a meaningful and successful life, This call can come in many forms: you need to have a clear passion in order to […]
Many years ago I learned from Brene Brown that hope is not an emotion (like a warm feeling of optimism and possibility). Instead hope is a way of thinking, a cognitive process. Actually, the idea that hope is a practical cognitive process already made me more hopeful. Hope felt less like something you had or […]
When we think of balance or work-life balance often the image of scales automatically comes up in our minds. (Just google pictures for the term balance, you will see mostly images of scales). The image of scales implies that when we talk about balance we talk about two separate sides that should have equal weight […]
You may feel things are at a standstill because your work is slower or because you are unable to work due to increased caregiving demands. *** please read on, even if you don’t feel like this. The questions I’ll ask later on are valuable to ask yourself everyday to increase your impact **** So, as […]